This blog is all about learning tips and techniques on how to grow in faith because faith is what moves you forward to achieving your dreams. Everything you desire is created in the mind first and if you can master your mind then you can achieve anything you desire.
Tuesday, March 15, 2016
Want To Have More Energy To Follow Your Dreams? Here's How
I really like this article that I found. This amazing article is all about having more energy to pursue your dreams. It's called How To Reclaim Your Energy So You Can Follow Your Dreams by Bill Apablasa. If you are feeling drained all the time and you want to learn a valuable lesson on how to gain more energy for your dreams then this article will help you a lot.
I love this article because in today's world it can be very hard to have energy before and after a long day of work and family. Add in an illness or depression and you can find yourself crawling out of bed overwhelmed with fatigue. Even now with me moving from one state to another having to create a whole new routine for myself and adjusting to a new environment is very draining. That is why I love this article that Bill wrote. His article is packed with great ideas to have more energy to follow your dreams. It is truly a breath of fresh air.
Bill so wisely said, “Money is not the great currency of our time. Energy is. Physical energy to get out of bed, and positive energy to do something better with our lives. All the noblest dreams in the world mean nothing if we don't have the energy to pursue them”.
He is absolutely right. How can we pursue our dreams if we don't have the energy to pursue them? And anything can sap our energy. Years ago I had the worst headache in my life nonstop for 8 straight looong months and the doctors for a very long time couldn't figure out what was wrong and they kept giving me medication that seemed to make things worse. That experience drained me like nothing else in my life. Thank God the answer was found and I recovered but most people don't recover from life energy drains.
Bill said “That's the thing about energy; it can drain out of us in so many different ways. Sure, bad health will do it, but so will a toxic relationship, or not being able to pay your mortgage, or finding out your son is being bullied in school. Worry. Fear. Regret. Anger. They're all “pin in the balloon” energy busters. Fortunately, There's hope. Lots of hope. We just need to learn how to get our energy back. In fact, the fight to reclaim our energy is one of the most important battles we'll ever fight. Triumph here and we gain the strength to fight an even greater battle- the fight for our dreams and the life we imagined”.
Having energy is very important in every aspect of our lives. Without energy, we can't live our lives to the fullest. Like Bill said there is hope. In his article, Bill gives many great tips on how to have more energy. One of my favorite tip he gave was “Stay in the moment”. Bill said “Want to see your energy soar? Catch yourself living in the past or the future as often as you can”.
This is a very helpful tip. Before I started practicing being mindful using MBSR my mind was all over the place thinking about the past and the future. When I learned how to notice when I am ruminating or rehearsing the future and bring myself back to the present it really helped my anxiety and increased my energy a lot. If nothing else learn to be mindful and you will have a whole lot of energy to get things done. Bill said, “The present moment is the only place where we will find both peace and power”.
Another great point that Bill made was “Engage in activities that keep you in the moment”.
What I like to do to train myself to stay in the moment is to always start my day on purpose. I start my day very slow on purpose. Even if I have a busy day ahead I will wake up early just to start my day on purpose. First thing in the morning I go to the bathroom to wash up then go back to bed. I say my prayers, read the bible and another favorite book and set my intention for the day in my journal. Starting your day on purpose helps to set the tempo of the day. I have learned that if you start the day relaxed and mindful you will end the day relaxed and mindful with energy to spare.
There are so many great points in Bill's article I can go on and on. It's best that you study his article yourself and use what you learned in your daily life. Bill said “At the end of the day, all this adds up to a simple two-prong strategy. Avoid the things in life that take our energy away, and then find the magic that brings our energy back”.
You have the power to have all the energy you need to pursue your dreams. If you want to learn more on how to have more energy to live life and pursue your passions please read Bill Apablasa's article How To Reclaim Your Energy So You Can Follow Your Dreams. Learn to live your life on purpose and you will have more energy to live.
God Bless
Tuesday, March 8, 2016
Let Go Of The Lack Of Motivation
I have found an amazing article that is
very uplifting and encouraging. It is titled An Open Letter To Those Who Have Lost Their Motivation written by Marc Chernoff. If you lack
motivation because of your long life journey this article is for you.
This article is right on time for me
because for the past 2 weeks I have felt a little discouraged and
unmotivated. I have been working on being a Professional Life Coach
for a year now and I still feel like I have 10,000 pieces to put
together in order to be successful. The journey seems painfully
sloooow but in my heart I know that this is what I was called to do
and even if I wasn't getting paid I would still love helping people.
It's just that I need movement and growth. My Sister recently told me "You Barbara, you must feel like you are slaying dragons or you will get depressed
and unmotivated. You need to find dragons to slay". I think a lot of people are that way and that is why
I want to share what I have learned in the last 2 weeks.
After talking to my sister I realized
that she is right. I need to slay some dragons. The first question
that I asked myself was what dragon do I want to slay? In other
words, what do I really want to master? The answer came to me
quickly. I reeaaaally want to master Transitional Coaching. There are
a lot of people who are going through transitions right now and I
want to help people get focused, motivated and clear about the next
chapter in their lives. I want to help people who are going through
life changes and even Spiritual Shifts that sometimes make us feel
lost with having no clear direction.
The next question I asked myself was do
I have everything I need to reach my goals? I have training and
experience but there is still the 10,000 pieces to put together to
have a successful coaching practice.
The last question that I asked myself
was what can I do NOW to accomplish my goals? This question really
shifted my perspective. I was so focused on being “there” until I
completely lost focus on the NOW and NOW is all we have. I was more
focused on looking at the 10,000 puzzle box and not focused on the
smaller pieces piled on the table.
Marc in his article wisely said “No
matter your circumstances, you always have what you need to take the
next smallest step. As Epicurus so profoundly said, “Do not spoil
what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you
now have was once among the things you only hoped for.” Be mindful.
Be present. Keep going. One small step at a time”.
"One small step at a time".
So now I set my alarm clock and wake up
on purpose. Every morning I ask myself what do I need to do now to
get to my goals? I get what I need to do done first before anything else then I am
done for the day. I noticed that the most successful people are
always focused on the task at hand and do what they need to do even
when they don't feel like it.
I also learned that I am not trying to
be a coach, I am a coach. I am not trying to be a writer, I am a
writer. Coaches coach and Writers write. I have learned that in order
to become what we desire to be we must BE what we want to be.
The last thing that I learned the last
2 weeks is to be constant even when you don't feel like it. Because I
thought that my road was soooo long 1 day of watching So You Think
You Can Dance marathon wouldn't hurt but 1 day turned into 2 days and 2
days turned into 2 weeks. I learned that we must stay constant or we
will lose our momentum. Stick to a schedule even if you don't feel
like it and you will be able to slay dragons with one swing.
I am excited about the future because
today I got a lot done. 1 dragon down and many more to come. If you
are looking for a motivating and uplifting article to help you put
things into perspective please read An Open Letter To Those Who Have Lost Their Motivation written by Marc Chernoff. Remember that it is
not about the destination it is all about the journey.
You have everything you need right now
to continue on.
God Bless
Tuesday, February 23, 2016
Let Go Of Stress And Show Yourself Some Love
I
have found a really great article about How to turn your stress into
happiness. Some articles written about stress and anxiety makes me
want to roll my eyes but this article is a must read for anyone
dealing with stress. I know you will love Blon Lee's article 12 Ways To Turn Your Crippling Stress into Happiness.
I
really love Lee's article. There were so many useable ideas in this
article that it was hard for me to pick just a few favorites.
One
of my top favorites was his first point “Consider getting a pet”.
Lee said “Sharing negative feelings with close friends can
significantly reduce stress. Studies show that spending time with
pets relieves stress in the same way. Also, when you're accompanied
by a pet in stressful situations, it prevents your stress level from
rising”. Lee makes a great point here. There was a point in my life
a few years ago when I was very sick. I was having a lot of pain from
head to toe and I was popping pain pills like candy.
I couldn't walk and I couldn't sleep. I was beyond stressed because of my illness and all the medication I had to take. Just out of the blue I thought it would be a great idea to get a kitten. My husband thought I was crazy. It was funny because I never had a pet before and I wanted a kitten. My husband and I found a Himalayan Siamese mix kitten with blue eyes. She was special. She always knew when I was sick and whenever I went to sleep she would sleep on my chest. She was a very light weight cat and I didn't feel her sleeping on me. Whenever I was sick she was right there then when I was ok she went away did her cat thing and didn't want to be bothered until she wanted me to pet her.
I couldn't walk and I couldn't sleep. I was beyond stressed because of my illness and all the medication I had to take. Just out of the blue I thought it would be a great idea to get a kitten. My husband thought I was crazy. It was funny because I never had a pet before and I wanted a kitten. My husband and I found a Himalayan Siamese mix kitten with blue eyes. She was special. She always knew when I was sick and whenever I went to sleep she would sleep on my chest. She was a very light weight cat and I didn't feel her sleeping on me. Whenever I was sick she was right there then when I was ok she went away did her cat thing and didn't want to be bothered until she wanted me to pet her.
What
was strange is that I had my cat for 8 years before she died and on
the day she died I noticed that I had a really hard time seeing. The next
day my vision was very blurry. My husband took me to see the eye doctor
the following day and the doctor told me that the Macular in my eyes
are severally damaged and she was surprised that I was seeing
anything at all. Weeks later I was diagnosed with Macular
Degeneration. I didn't notice my eyesight before my cat died. Did my
eight year old cat keep me seeing? Did she keep me healthy? I do know
one thing she really did help me with stress. She will be missed.
Another
great point that Lee made about how to combat stress is “Shower
yourself with gifts”. For obvious reasons, I looove this
suggestion. Lee said “Reward yourself for reaching goals. Research
shows that when you're rewarded for an action, you're likely to
repeat it. This is called a positive feedback loop. It's much more
effective than punishment”. This is an important point because many
times we spend more time pointing out our own flaws and
tearing ourselves down then we do rewarding ourselves. I think many
people feel that rewarding ourselves for the little things we do is
indulgent. I would suggest that rewarding ourselves every time we
reach our goals keeps us focused on success and leaves no room to focus on our failures. Make it a point to reward yourself for your success
and your stresses will naturally fade away.
“Exploit
bad habits to your advantage” this is another great point. This is
an awesome idea because it makes you more conscious of your actions.
Instead of mindlessly jumping into a bad habit stretch, meditate
or do some light exercise for 30 seconds “then you are free to
indulge” says Blon Lee. Lee suggests increasing your good habit
time weekly until your bad habits are gone. Doing this you will build
an automatic response to stress and the stress becomes less and less
over time. I would also add reward yourself when you expand your good
habits to keep you motivated to keep expanding your good habits.
Lee
made a hilarious point in talking about “Reach great heights by
letting yourself suck big time”. Lee says “Some people cannot
accept mistakes. Everything has to be perfect from the start. They
think others will look down on them if they appear to be flawed.
These people are frequently stressed. The happiest and most
successful people focus on improvement. They love mistakes and flaws
because they see them as opportunities to grow”. “Have lofty
goals, but have realistic standards. Don't judge yourself based on
the results of your action. See them as feedback, and seek
improvement from there".
Happiness
does not come from perfection. Happiness is in the journey.
That
leads me to my last favorite on Lee's list “Be shameless about not
doing things”. Lee said “You don't have the time and energy to do
everything you want to do. Inevitably, things are left undone, and
you beat yourself up. This creates stress. Consider what's truly
important to you. Kill the rest shamelessly. This way, you gain more
time and control over your life while making more progress”. I have
learned to put all of my focus on what is really important to me.
Even though I get pressured by people to do everything but what is
important to me I remain shameless and focused on my goals and
dreams.
The
point of this article and Lee's article is to show you how not let
stress dominate your life. One point I must make is that stress is
not your enemy. When you are feeling stressed it means that you are
out of balance and you must take mindful actions to get back into balance. Don't beat yourself up because you are stressed. Live in the moment and do the steps you have learned to get beyond stress and never give up.
If
you are looking for a way to overcome stress please read Blon Lee's article 12 Ways To Turn Your Crippling Stress into Happiness. You
have everything you need to succeed.
God
Bless
Tuesday, February 16, 2016
You Don't Owe Anyone An Explanation
I really enjoy reading this very short article written by Steven Aitchison titled 7 Things You Don't Owe Anyone An Explanation For. It is very short but very to the point. It had me cheering saying YES RIGHT ON!!! I know you will love this short article that will have you cheering for your own life.
My husband and I just moved from
Oklahoma to Las Vegas and we just got settled in. This is a rough
transition time for the both of us right now but we are doing ok. It was a
crazy trip and things don't always turn out the way you planed it but
we made it here safely. [You can read all about my crazy adventures here]
Speaking of things that are not
planned, you know how when you are in rough times in your life you
have this great need to explain what you are doing with your family
or friends? You just want them to understand that you are not crazy and you have everything under control. Sometimes you really don't know what you are doing or how
things will turn out but you have this need to keep going. When I am
going through tough times the last thing I want to do is explain
myself. Only when I got older I started to understand that I don't
have to explain myself to anyone.
In Steven's Article he talks about 7
things you don't have to give an explanation for and my favorites in
his article is your level of education, your beliefs in God and your
alone time. I have some collage and many certificates but nothing
compares to the education that I received outside of school. I read
and study something every day. I love studying the bible and
metaphysics but I don't have a degree in religious studies. If a
person reads everyday how do anyone explains their level of
education? Even if they did try to explain that persons explanation
may not be enough. So why even try to explain? You don't have too.
Steven in his article said “Your level of education does not define
you”.
Another point in his article is that
you don't have to explain your belief in God. Growing up in the
church I understand the pressure to explain what you believe. As I
got older hehe just recently I learned that my relationship with God
is between me and God. What Steven said in his article is that some
people will not believe you anyway and an argument can be never
ending. I use to believe that I needed consensus with my beliefs but
I learned that with God that is a strong majority and that is good
enough for me.
Alone time is also very important. You
need your space to relax and recharge. Some people think that taking
a lot of alone time is antisocial but only you know how much alone
time will rejuvenate your spirit. You don't need to explain your
alone time to anyone.
Braking the habit of explaining yourself can be a challenge but I learned that the trick to braking the habit of explaining yourself is a matter of having a peaceful confidence within yourself and know you don't need other peoples approval. You and God makes a majority. Another great lesson that I learned is that we must become mature. In other words grow up. Have you noticed that the people up in years don't care about what other people think? They just keep doing what they do even if you don't like it. That comes from years of learning that no one outside of themselves have any sway over what they think or what they do. They are happy doing what they do. To brake the habit you must have a quiet confidence within you. Let people say whatever they want to say while staying focused on your goals and dreams.
Braking the habit of explaining yourself can be a challenge but I learned that the trick to braking the habit of explaining yourself is a matter of having a peaceful confidence within yourself and know you don't need other peoples approval. You and God makes a majority. Another great lesson that I learned is that we must become mature. In other words grow up. Have you noticed that the people up in years don't care about what other people think? They just keep doing what they do even if you don't like it. That comes from years of learning that no one outside of themselves have any sway over what they think or what they do. They are happy doing what they do. To brake the habit you must have a quiet confidence within you. Let people say whatever they want to say while staying focused on your goals and dreams.
I love this article written by Steven.
It had sooo many great points in it and I could easily add to the
list of things that you don't have to explain to anyone. The point is
that this is your life. This is your life to live to the fullest. Do
not spend an endless amount of energy trying to explain anything to
anyone who is not trying to help you get to where you want to be. Unless they can help don't say anything. If you are looking for a REALLY encouraging and uplifting article that will having you cheering please read Steven Aitchison's article titled 7 Things You Don't Owe Anyone An Explanation For.
What is on your list of things you don't owe and explanation for? Please leave your comments below.
What is on your list of things you don't owe and explanation for? Please leave your comments below.
Tuesday, December 15, 2015
Getting Ready For The Next Chapter In My Life.
I am really excited right now. I know I
haven't written a blog in a while because of the holiday
season but mostly because I am getting ready for the next chapter in
my life. My husband is Graduating Collage this Thursday ^_^ and we
are moving back to Las Vegas NV where we lived for 10 years before
moving to Oklahoma.
We had to face so many challenges while
My husband went to school. I had a lot of health issues and then I
was told that I was going blind. I could only imagine the pressure
that my husband was under. Having to work full-time, go to school
full time and take care of me, helping me to heal and not give up.
Now this amazing journey is coming to
an end. Each of us stronger and wiser than when we first started this
journey 4 years ago.
He will be graduating and once we move
I will be on a whole new path for myself. Once we move I will start
the low vision training that I need to do, even though I think I am
doing pretty darn well ^_^ but knowledge is power so I will get the
training. I avoided doing it for the longest time because I reeeallly
didn't want to face the fact that I am losing my eyesight. I realized
that I must focus on enhancing my other senses and not focus on what
I am losing. I always tell everyone to focus on what you want and not
on what you don't want so I think it's time to take my own advice.
When we move back I also want to focus
on my art, creating tutorials and creating beautiful journals that
will inspire people to write. I am having a strong pull back to doing
what I have always loved. I feel like with this new chapter I am
redesigning my life. More accurately I feel like I am following God's
plan for my life. I am excited for what is to come. Please keep me
and my husband in your prayers as we get ready for the move and the
new chapter in our lives. Once I get settled I will be back to updating everyone with new blog posts. Stay inspired. Thank you for following me.
You are loved and appreciated.
Tuesday, November 24, 2015
My Top 7 Inspirational Blogs and Memes
This is my top 7 inspirational blogs and memes to help you get you through the holidays and beyond. God Bless and Happy Holidays
Tuesday, November 3, 2015
Let Go And Love ALL Of Yourself
I really love this article that I found
about Anxiety. It is written by an anonymous writer titled How to Make Anxiety Work For You, Not Against You. Everyone has experienced anxiety from time to time but if you are going through some tough
challenges right now you are really going to enjoy this article. It
really hits home in such a beautiful way on how to make anxiety your
friend and not your enemy.
This article was so great it almost
made me cry reading it. It has a really powerful message that I know
anyone who reads it will be able to relate to it. I remember growing
up I was filled with A LOT of anxiety about everything. I went from
childhood abuse to my mom and dad disappearing leaving my little
sister and me with a friend who really didn't want us to be with her
because she was a single mom with 3 kids of her own. It was a very
scary time for me because I didn't know if me and my sister were
going to be homeless. I had anxieties about school because I
was always behind and I still had to deal with the social politics at
every school we moved too which made things even worse. I worried
about everything.
My anxiety seemed non stop even in
adulthood when I had to face some serious health problems back to
back. For the longest time, anxiety was something that I had to
fight. Everything hurt and I had to do everything to stop the pain
but no matter how hard I fought to stop the pain and make things
better things kept getting worse. I got to the point in my life where
I was so afraid that I would be crushed by something “out there”
that I didn't even want to leave the house or even my bed at times. I
have seen great therapists and they were helpful, but I still felt
like I was missing something. I didn't know what it was until a few
years ago.
Anonymous said, “I was the one who
had turned anxiety into some sort of creepy horror movie character,
when really all she was, was a version of me who just wanted to be
heard and loved.” This is what I came to realize myself. I realized that I was
fighting myself and making an enemy out of something that was trying
to help me. Instead of fighting my anxiety I learned to embrace it
and listen to it. That is when I went from being extremely fearful to
being very adventurous and outgoing.
Anonymous said, “I decided that day
to change anxiety's name to “sweetheart”... When she feels
worried, I tell her I am there for her, and she smiles. When she's
angry, I listen to what's bothering her, and she relaxes.” This is
exactly what I learned on my journey. When I feel pain or anger I
literally stop, look at it and I say to myself I see you, It is ok to
be there, I love and accept you anyway then the pain, frustration and
anger just melts away. My anxiety aka sweetheart just wants to be
seen and heard so I see her for what she is and I say it's ok ^_^
Anonymous said, “When you accept and
love parts of yourself that you deem unacceptable, a strange thing
happens. Those parts start working with you instead of against you.”
When I learned that anxiety was not my enemy I was able to travel and
explore beyond my wildest dreams. Staying focus on my Spiritual life
and learning Mindfulness techniques really helped me out a lot in
learning to let go and love all of myself. I learned to not fight
that part of myself but embrace it. I learned that anxiety is nothing
to be ashamed of. Anxiety is like physical pain and it can be
physical pain. That pain is not trying to kill you it is simply
trying to tell you that something needs to change and you have the
power to change it.
After much study and self-reflection, I
don't see anxiety the same anymore. If you can adjust your
perspective a bit you can learn to use anxiety to your great
advantage.
Anonymous said “Rather than seeing
UCI (anxiety) as something that needs to be removed, think about the
gifts it brings to your life and choose to see it differently. Now
that I can see my anxiety as a gift. I know what I need to do to get
back to inner peace, something I don't think I've ever really been
able to do.” This is the key right here. When something is strongly
in your face take notice and go back to inner peace. That is what
mindfulness is all about. It is about excepting what is and going
back to the center, to inner peace.
Don't be afraid. Find out what your
anxiety is trying to tell you and listen. From my experience, I know
that peace of mind is on the other side of listening to that part of
yourself that desperately wants to be heard. If you are struggling
with anxiety please read How to Make Anxiety Work For You, Not Against You. I am very honored to have read that article. I hope you
enjoy it and find it as helpful as I did.
God Bless
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