Tuesday, March 15, 2016

Want To Have More Energy To Follow Your Dreams? Here's How


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I really like this article that I found. This amazing article is all about having more energy to pursue your dreams. It's called How To Reclaim Your Energy So You Can Follow Your Dreams by Bill Apablasa. If you are feeling drained all the time and you want to learn a valuable lesson on how to gain more energy for your dreams then this article will help you a lot.

I love this article because in today's world it can be very hard to have energy before and after a long day of work and family. Add in an illness or depression and you can find yourself crawling out of bed overwhelmed with fatigue. Even now with me moving from one state to another having to create a whole new routine for myself and adjusting to a new environment is very draining. That is why I love this article that Bill wrote. His article is packed with great ideas to have more energy to follow your dreams. It is truly a breath of fresh air.

Bill so wisely said, “Money is not the great currency of our time. Energy is. Physical energy to get out of bed, and positive energy to do something better with our lives. All the noblest dreams in the world mean nothing if we don't have the energy to pursue them”.

He is absolutely right. How can we pursue our dreams if we don't have the energy to pursue them? And anything can sap our energy. Years ago I had the worst headache in my life nonstop for 8 straight looong months and the doctors for a very long time couldn't figure out what was wrong and they kept giving me medication that seemed to make things worse. That experience drained me like nothing else in my life. Thank God the answer was found and I recovered but most people don't recover from life energy drains.

Bill said “That's the thing about energy; it can drain out of us in so many different ways. Sure, bad health will do it, but so will a toxic relationship, or not being able to pay your mortgage, or finding out your son is being bullied in school. Worry. Fear. Regret. Anger. They're all “pin in the balloon” energy busters. Fortunately, There's hope. Lots of hope. We just need to learn how to get our energy back. In fact, the fight to reclaim our energy is one of the most important battles we'll ever fight. Triumph here and we gain the strength to fight an even greater battle- the fight for our dreams and the life we imagined”.

Having energy is very important in every aspect of our lives. Without energy, we can't live our lives to the fullest. Like Bill said there is hope. In his article, Bill gives many great tips on how to have more energy. One of my favorite tip he gave was “Stay in the moment”. Bill said “Want to see your energy soar? Catch yourself living in the past or the future as often as you can”.

This is a very helpful tip. Before I started practicing being mindful using MBSR my mind was all over the place thinking about the past and the future. When I learned how to notice when I am ruminating or rehearsing the future and bring myself back to the present it really helped my anxiety and increased my energy a lot. If nothing else learn to be mindful and you will have a whole lot of energy to get things done. Bill said, “The present moment is the only place where we will find both peace and power”.

Another great point that Bill made was “Engage in activities that keep you in the moment”.
What I like to do to train myself to stay in the moment is to always start my day on purpose. I start my day very slow on purpose. Even if I have a busy day ahead I will wake up early just to start my day on purpose. First thing in the morning I go to the bathroom to wash up then go back to bed. I say my prayers, read the bible and another favorite book and set my intention for the day in my journal. Starting your day on purpose helps to set the tempo of the day. I have learned that if you start the day relaxed and mindful you will end the day relaxed and mindful with energy to spare.

There are so many great points in Bill's article I can go on and on. It's best that you study his article yourself and use what you learned in your daily life. Bill said “At the end of the day, all this adds up to a simple two-prong strategy. Avoid the things in life that take our energy away, and then find the magic that brings our energy back”.

You have the power to have all the energy you need to pursue your dreams. If you want to learn more on how to have more energy to live life and pursue your passions please read Bill Apablasa's article How To Reclaim Your Energy So You Can Follow Your Dreams. Learn to live your life on purpose and you will have more energy to live.

God Bless


Tuesday, March 8, 2016

Let Go Of The Lack Of Motivation

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I have found an amazing article that is very uplifting and encouraging. It is titled An Open Letter To Those Who Have Lost Their Motivation written by Marc Chernoff. If you lack motivation because of your long life journey this article is for you.

This article is right on time for me because for the past 2 weeks I have felt a little discouraged and unmotivated. I have been working on being a Professional Life Coach for a year now and I still feel like I have 10,000 pieces to put together in order to be successful. The journey seems painfully sloooow but in my heart I know that this is what I was called to do and even if I wasn't getting paid I would still love helping people. It's just that I need movement and growth. My Sister recently told me "You Barbara, you must feel like you are slaying dragons or you will get depressed and unmotivated. You need to find dragons to slay". I think a lot of people are that way and that is why I want to share what I have learned in the last 2 weeks.

After talking to my sister I realized that she is right. I need to slay some dragons. The first question that I asked myself was what dragon do I want to slay? In other words, what do I really want to master? The answer came to me quickly. I reeaaaally want to master Transitional Coaching. There are a lot of people who are going through transitions right now and I want to help people get focused, motivated and clear about the next chapter in their lives. I want to help people who are going through life changes and even Spiritual Shifts that sometimes make us feel lost with having no clear direction.

The next question I asked myself was do I have everything I need to reach my goals? I have training and experience but there is still the 10,000 pieces to put together to have a successful coaching practice.

The last question that I asked myself was what can I do NOW to accomplish my goals? This question really shifted my perspective. I was so focused on being “there” until I completely lost focus on the NOW and NOW is all we have. I was more focused on looking at the 10,000 puzzle box and not focused on the smaller pieces piled on the table.

Marc in his article wisely said “No matter your circumstances, you always have what you need to take the next smallest step. As Epicurus so profoundly said, “Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.” Be mindful. Be present. Keep going. One small step at a time”.

"One small step at a time".

So now I set my alarm clock and wake up on purpose. Every morning I ask myself what do I need to do now to get to my goals? I get what I need to do done first before anything else then I am done for the day. I noticed that the most successful people are always focused on the task at hand and do what they need to do even when they don't feel like it.

I also learned that I am not trying to be a coach, I am a coach. I am not trying to be a writer, I am a writer. Coaches coach and Writers write. I have learned that in order to become what we desire to be we must BE what we want to be.

The last thing that I learned the last 2 weeks is to be constant even when you don't feel like it. Because I thought that my road was soooo long 1 day of watching So You Think You Can Dance marathon wouldn't hurt but 1 day turned into 2 days and 2 days turned into 2 weeks. I learned that we must stay constant or we will lose our momentum. Stick to a schedule even if you don't feel like it and you will be able to slay dragons with one swing.

I am excited about the future because today I got a lot done. 1 dragon down and many more to come. If you are looking for a motivating and uplifting article to help you put things into perspective please read An Open Letter To Those Who Have Lost Their Motivation written by Marc Chernoff. Remember that it is not about the destination it is all about the journey.

You have everything you need right now to continue on.

God Bless


Tuesday, February 23, 2016

Let Go Of Stress And Show Yourself Some Love

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I have found a really great article about How to turn your stress into happiness. Some articles written about stress and anxiety makes me want to roll my eyes but this article is a must read for anyone dealing with stress. I know you will love Blon Lee's article 12 Ways To Turn Your Crippling Stress into Happiness.

I really love Lee's article. There were so many useable ideas in this article that it was hard for me to pick just a few favorites.

One of my top favorites was his first point “Consider getting a pet”. Lee said “Sharing negative feelings with close friends can significantly reduce stress. Studies show that spending time with pets relieves stress in the same way. Also, when you're accompanied by a pet in stressful situations, it prevents your stress level from rising”. Lee makes a great point here. There was a point in my life a few years ago when I was very sick. I was having a lot of pain from head to toe and I was popping pain pills like candy. 

I couldn't walk and I couldn't sleep. I was beyond stressed because of my illness and all the medication I had to take. Just out of the blue I thought it would be a great idea to get a kitten. My husband thought I was crazy. It was funny because I never had a pet before and I wanted a kitten. My husband and I found a Himalayan Siamese mix kitten with blue eyes. She was special. She always knew when I was sick and whenever I went to sleep she would sleep on my chest. She was a very light weight cat and I didn't feel her sleeping on me. Whenever I was sick she was right there then when I was ok she went away did her cat thing and didn't want to be bothered until she wanted me to pet her.

What was strange is that I had my cat for 8 years before she died and on the day she died I noticed that I had a really hard time seeing. The next day my vision was very blurry. My husband took me to see the eye doctor the following day and the doctor told me that the Macular in my eyes are severally damaged and she was surprised that I was seeing anything at all. Weeks later I was diagnosed with Macular Degeneration. I didn't notice my eyesight before my cat died. Did my eight year old cat keep me seeing? Did she keep me healthy? I do know one thing she really did help me with stress. She will be missed.

Another great point that Lee made about how to combat stress is “Shower yourself with gifts”. For obvious reasons, I looove this suggestion. Lee said “Reward yourself for reaching goals. Research shows that when you're rewarded for an action, you're likely to repeat it. This is called a positive feedback loop. It's much more effective than punishment”. This is an important point because many times we spend more time pointing out our own flaws and tearing ourselves down then we do rewarding ourselves. I think many people feel that rewarding ourselves for the little things we do is indulgent. I would suggest that rewarding ourselves every time we reach our goals keeps us focused on success and leaves no room to focus on our failures. Make it a point to reward yourself for your success and your stresses will naturally fade away.

Exploit bad habits to your advantage” this is another great point. This is an awesome idea because it makes you more conscious of your actions. Instead of mindlessly jumping into a bad habit stretch, meditate or do some light exercise for 30 seconds “then you are free to indulge” says Blon Lee. Lee suggests increasing your good habit time weekly until your bad habits are gone. Doing this you will build an automatic response to stress and the stress becomes less and less over time. I would also add reward yourself when you expand your good habits to keep you motivated to keep expanding your good habits.

Lee made a hilarious point in talking about “Reach great heights by letting yourself suck big time”. Lee says “Some people cannot accept mistakes. Everything has to be perfect from the start. They think others will look down on them if they appear to be flawed. These people are frequently stressed. The happiest and most successful people focus on improvement. They love mistakes and flaws because they see them as opportunities to grow”. “Have lofty goals, but have realistic standards. Don't judge yourself based on the results of your action. See them as feedback, and seek improvement from there".
Happiness does not come from perfection. Happiness is in the journey.

That leads me to my last favorite on Lee's list “Be shameless about not doing things”. Lee said “You don't have the time and energy to do everything you want to do. Inevitably, things are left undone, and you beat yourself up. This creates stress. Consider what's truly important to you. Kill the rest shamelessly. This way, you gain more time and control over your life while making more progress”. I have learned to put all of my focus on what is really important to me. Even though I get pressured by people to do everything but what is important to me I remain shameless and focused on my goals and dreams.

The point of this article and Lee's article is to show you how not let stress dominate your life. One point I must make is that stress is not your enemy. When you are feeling stressed it means that you are out of balance and you must take mindful actions to get back into balance. Don't beat yourself up because you are stressed. Live in the moment and do the steps you have learned to get beyond stress and never give up.

If you are looking for a way to overcome stress please read Blon Lee's article 12 Ways To Turn Your Crippling Stress into Happiness. You have everything you need to succeed.

God Bless


Tuesday, February 16, 2016

You Don't Owe Anyone An Explanation

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I really enjoy reading this very short article written by Steven Aitchison titled 7 Things You Don't Owe Anyone An Explanation For. It is very short but very to the point. It had me cheering saying YES RIGHT ON!!! I know you will love this short article that will have you cheering for your own life.

My husband and I just moved from Oklahoma to Las Vegas and we just got settled in. This is a rough transition time for the both of us right now but we are doing ok. It was a crazy trip and things don't always turn out the way you planed it but we made it here safely. [You can read all about my crazy adventures here]

Speaking of things that are not planned, you know how when you are in rough times in your life you have this great need to explain what you are doing with your family or friends? You just want them to understand that you are not crazy and you have everything under control. Sometimes you really don't know what you are doing or how things will turn out but you have this need to keep going. When I am going through tough times the last thing I want to do is explain myself. Only when I got older I started to understand that I don't have to explain myself to anyone.

In Steven's Article he talks about 7 things you don't have to give an explanation for and my favorites in his article is your level of education, your beliefs in God and your alone time. I have some collage and many certificates but nothing compares to the education that I received outside of school. I read and study something every day. I love studying the bible and metaphysics but I don't have a degree in religious studies. If a person reads everyday how do anyone explains their level of education? Even if they did try to explain that persons explanation may not be enough. So why even try to explain? You don't have too. Steven in his article said “Your level of education does not define you”.

Another point in his article is that you don't have to explain your belief in God. Growing up in the church I understand the pressure to explain what you believe. As I got older hehe just recently I learned that my relationship with God is between me and God. What Steven said in his article is that some people will not believe you anyway and an argument can be never ending. I use to believe that I needed consensus with my beliefs but I learned that with God that is a strong majority and that is good enough for me.

Alone time is also very important. You need your space to relax and recharge. Some people think that taking a lot of alone time is antisocial but only you know how much alone time will rejuvenate your spirit. You don't need to explain your alone time to anyone.

Braking the habit of explaining yourself can be a challenge but I learned that the trick to braking the habit of explaining yourself is a matter of having a peaceful confidence within yourself and know you don't need other peoples approval. You and God makes a majority. Another great lesson that I learned is that we must become mature. In other words grow up. Have you noticed that the people up in years don't care about what other people think? They just keep doing what they do even if you don't like it. That comes from years of learning that no one outside of themselves have any sway over what they think or what they do. They are happy doing what they do. To brake the habit you must have a quiet confidence within you. Let people say whatever they want to say while staying focused on your goals and dreams. 


I love this article written by Steven. It had sooo many great points in it and I could easily add to the list of things that you don't have to explain to anyone. The point is that this is your life. This is your life to live to the fullest. Do not spend an endless amount of energy trying to explain anything to anyone who is not trying to help you get to where you want to be. Unless they can help don't say anything. If you are looking for a REALLY encouraging and uplifting article that will having you cheering please read Steven Aitchison's article titled 7 Things You Don't Owe Anyone An Explanation For.

What is on your list of things you don't owe and explanation for? Please leave your comments below.     

Tuesday, December 15, 2015

Getting Ready For The Next Chapter In My Life.


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I am really excited right now. I know I haven't written a blog in a while because of the holiday season but mostly because I am getting ready for the next chapter in my life. My husband is Graduating Collage this Thursday ^_^ and we are moving back to Las Vegas NV where we lived for 10 years before moving to Oklahoma.

We had to face so many challenges while My husband went to school. I had a lot of health issues and then I was told that I was going blind. I could only imagine the pressure that my husband was under. Having to work full-time, go to school full time and take care of me, helping me to heal and not give up.
Now this amazing journey is coming to an end. Each of us stronger and wiser than when we first started this journey 4 years ago.

He will be graduating and once we move I will be on a whole new path for myself. Once we move I will start the low vision training that I need to do, even though I think I am doing pretty darn well ^_^ but knowledge is power so I will get the training. I avoided doing it for the longest time because I reeeallly didn't want to face the fact that I am losing my eyesight. I realized that I must focus on enhancing my other senses and not focus on what I am losing. I always tell everyone to focus on what you want and not on what you don't want so I think it's time to take my own advice.

When we move back I also want to focus on my art, creating tutorials and creating beautiful journals that will inspire people to write. I am having a strong pull back to doing what I have always loved. I feel like with this new chapter I am redesigning my life. More accurately I feel like I am following God's plan for my life. I am excited for what is to come. Please keep me and my husband in your prayers as we get ready for the move and the new chapter in our lives. Once I get settled I will be back to updating everyone with new blog posts. Stay inspired. Thank you for following me. You are loved and appreciated.


Tuesday, November 24, 2015

My Top 7 Inspirational Blogs and Memes

It can be stressful for many people this time of year. Added to the stress of the Holidays you also have the stress of current events. If you are a sensitive person like myself everything can be overwhelming but it don't have to be. Now more than any time we must stay focus on creating the life that we want to live and not get distracted. Enjoy each day as if it is your last. Read inspirational blogs and watch uplifting videos. Do what ever you can to make yourself uplifted and happy. You have everything you need to succeed. Don't believe anything less...

This is my top 7 inspirational blogs and memes to help you get you through the holidays and beyond. God Bless and Happy Holidays
























Tuesday, November 3, 2015

Let Go And Love ALL Of Yourself

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I really love this article that I found about Anxiety. It is written by an anonymous writer titled How to Make Anxiety Work For You, Not Against You. Everyone has experienced anxiety from time to time but if you are going through some tough challenges right now you are really going to enjoy this article. It really hits home in such a beautiful way on how to make anxiety your friend and not your enemy.

This article was so great it almost made me cry reading it. It has a really powerful message that I know anyone who reads it will be able to relate to it. I remember growing up I was filled with A LOT of anxiety about everything. I went from childhood abuse to my mom and dad disappearing leaving my little sister and me with a friend who really didn't want us to be with her because she was a single mom with 3 kids of her own. It was a very scary time for me because I didn't know if me and my sister were going to be homeless. I had anxieties about school because I was always behind and I still had to deal with the social politics at every school we moved too which made things even worse. I worried about everything.

My anxiety seemed non stop even in adulthood when I had to face some serious health problems back to back. For the longest time, anxiety was something that I had to fight. Everything hurt and I had to do everything to stop the pain but no matter how hard I fought to stop the pain and make things better things kept getting worse. I got to the point in my life where I was so afraid that I would be crushed by something “out there” that I didn't even want to leave the house or even my bed at times. I have seen great therapists and they were helpful, but I still felt like I was missing something. I didn't know what it was until a few years ago.

Anonymous said, “I was the one who had turned anxiety into some sort of creepy horror movie character, when really all she was, was a version of me who just wanted to be heard and loved.” This is what I came to realize myself. I realized that I was fighting myself and making an enemy out of something that was trying to help me. Instead of fighting my anxiety I learned to embrace it and listen to it. That is when I went from being extremely fearful to being very adventurous and outgoing.

Anonymous said, “I decided that day to change anxiety's name to “sweetheart”... When she feels worried, I tell her I am there for her, and she smiles. When she's angry, I listen to what's bothering her, and she relaxes.” This is exactly what I learned on my journey. When I feel pain or anger I literally stop, look at it and I say to myself I see you, It is ok to be there, I love and accept you anyway then the pain, frustration and anger just melts away. My anxiety aka sweetheart just wants to be seen and heard so I see her for what she is and I say it's ok ^_^

Anonymous said, “When you accept and love parts of yourself that you deem unacceptable, a strange thing happens. Those parts start working with you instead of against you.” When I learned that anxiety was not my enemy I was able to travel and explore beyond my wildest dreams. Staying focus on my Spiritual life and learning Mindfulness techniques really helped me out a lot in learning to let go and love all of myself. I learned to not fight that part of myself but embrace it. I learned that anxiety is nothing to be ashamed of. Anxiety is like physical pain and it can be physical pain. That pain is not trying to kill you it is simply trying to tell you that something needs to change and you have the power to change it.

After much study and self-reflection, I don't see anxiety the same anymore. If you can adjust your perspective a bit you can learn to use anxiety to your great advantage.

Anonymous said “Rather than seeing UCI (anxiety) as something that needs to be removed, think about the gifts it brings to your life and choose to see it differently. Now that I can see my anxiety as a gift. I know what I need to do to get back to inner peace, something I don't think I've ever really been able to do.” This is the key right here. When something is strongly in your face take notice and go back to inner peace. That is what mindfulness is all about. It is about excepting what is and going back to the center, to inner peace.

Don't be afraid. Find out what your anxiety is trying to tell you and listen. From my experience, I know that peace of mind is on the other side of listening to that part of yourself that desperately wants to be heard. If you are struggling with anxiety please read How to Make Anxiety Work For You, Not Against You. I am very honored to have read that article. I hope you enjoy it and find it as helpful as I did.

God Bless